I miss my Tucker man........

[Laura's Babies]

When I lost my so special Sambo, I bawled for days... My eyes were almost swollen shut from crying so much and so hard, it was days before I could eat so I KNOW what you are going through. I know, it helps to have people who understand and have been there where you are right now.

It takes time Kim, a lot of time. If you want to cry 24/7, DO IT! Cry until there are no more tears. Sambo has been gone for... Hummm, I reckon 20 years or more and I STILL miss what we had and wish him back.

Kim, all I have to offer you right now is my prayers and I will do that daily while I am gone. May God ease your pain and help you heal.

[sirrahbed]

((((Kim)))) We are here and sad and crying with you

[kimlovescats]

I know so many of you have felt what I am feeling ... and it does help to know that you understand and care ..... I just feel such a huge emptiness right now .... I thought I was getting better, but late afternoon / early evening up until bedtime is the worst. This is when he always followed me to "our" bed to go night night. Hubby works nights, so Tucker was my bed buddy. We had the same routine every night .... he knew when I said "let's go to bed, Tucker man" .... and would run back to the bedroom, jump on the bed and start purring and kneading the covers .... I always had to gently move him over just to pull the covers back and get in ... he was always standing right on my spot ... lol.

I am trying to post on some of the other boards some tonight, to get my mind off of myself and see where I can be of help to others. I am really dreading trying to get in my bed tonight. Last night I think I was too exhausted to even think about it ... tonight it is very clear.

Thank you all so much ..... Debbie .... thanks so much for calling me today, and Lorraine for calling me yesterday and also Gary (Catmandu) called me today as well. I am so very blessed with my wonderful PT friends.

(((HUGS)))
Kim

[Craftlady]

I still cry to this day for RB Butterscotch he has only been gone since March. I am so happy I have all the photos I took of him. The memorial garden is a great comfort for me. I highly recommend doing that for RB furry kids. Time will heal

[Fox-Gal]

I too am so sorry this had to happen, I know how bad you are hurting right now. As you may not know, I lost 3 of my babies during one of our hurricanes and it still hurts so much, even now.

Cry it out all you want and then remember the good days with Tucker and all the silly things, I'm sure he did, being a cat, then laugh about them and be thankfull you had him in your life and you where blessed with love.

Along with the joys of loving any pet comes the pain of losing them also. The two go hand in hand. Being able to accept love, I'm afraid means we have to accept lose with it.........but what a horrible life it would be if we didn't accept love into it, afraid of the risks of lose. You where given a great gift in Tucker, the gift of love, rejoice in that and it will get you through this.

{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}}}}}}
From the Zoo Crew.

[kimlovescats]

Wow, you all have such meaningful thoughts and stories to share, and they are so well-received ... "thank you" just doesn't seem like enough to say to you all!

Lori (jazzcat) just also called me .... you all are so very dear to my heart!

LOVE YOU!
Kim

[rosethecopycat]

I know how you feel, Kim.
A heavy, heavy feeling in your chest. Tears just bursting forth.
And I know it will get better too.

I can't tell you how long it will be this hard, but try and turn that feeling into a warm feeling about Tucker. At least you had him to love for a time.
You will see him again.



Rose

[shais_mom]

While I have not lost a cat that was close to my heart like Tucker was your's, I can understand what you are going thru b/c my beloved Shaianne (greyhound) crosse to the bridge. It just takes time. Please take care of yourself!
Love
Staci

[catfamily]

I'm so very sorry for the loss of such a special cat.I'm sorry for your pain.Know that Tucker had so much love from you as most cats are on the streets still looking for a home and love.
I know it was too early for Tucker but I know he had special love from you before he left us.

[popcornbird]

{{{{{hugs}}}}}

[NKBurlington]

I'm so sorry! I know how you feel.

In February, we lost our Sweet Jessie Girl. I took her to the vet and was in the room when they gave her the needle. DH could not go - he was too heartbroken and I felt ONE of us had to be there with her when she left to go to the RB.

I cried a lot while she was given the needle and I cried even more while holding her in my arms after she had passed. When I went home, I comforted DH who was a basket case. I was strong for him and did not cry; I only comforted him.

Then, the following night we were watching TV and I just lost it. I mean LOST IT! I bawled HARD for over an hour! I had no idea that a person could have so many tears. Do they ever end? It was DH's turn to comfort me. I cried for two days straight.

I feel your pain.

Attached is a picture of my Sweet Jessie Cat.

[Barbara]

I am so sorry Kim!

Whenever I wake up in a hotel there is this second when I expect Filou to jump on my bed. If I imagine he would never come again...............

[catlover4ever]

Oh Kim, my heart is aching for you {{{hugs}}}. I remember when I lost Tigger's brother Tony in 1999. It was all of a sudden. Even thought he had been sick for a while he had seemed to have gotten better, but I guess I was just fooling myself.

I can tell you that it does get easier....but I also know that it is no consolation to you right now. I'm just so sorry.

I have a tribute to Tony in pictures right next to my bed and I also was able to get his ashed back from the vet so I have them in a shadow box with his picture that is beside my bed as well. It has been 5 years since I lost him and I still look over at his pictures and think about him and cry. He was a "soul kitty"....just like Tucker was for you. Feel blessed that you were loved by him....we don't get to many "soul kitties" in our lifetime.

You know that if you ever need to talk or just someone to listen....I'm just a PM away. --- Meg

[Rachel]

Kim, I am so very sorry. Tucker was a real buddy to you, a baby boy, a constant joy in your life. When an animal fills so many of our needs and then he is no longer there, there is indeed an emptiness. I am the type who can let the grief turn into a depression. Grieve, miss him, cry....yes, but hold on to the joy of life that Tucker was so much a part of. To do that is to honor him. For every tear you shed, look too to the beauty of the world around you and take it in. This will take a lot of effort in the coming days and weeks, but it is important that you make the effort. Tucker was a wonderful kitty, and being that, you know he wants you to recover from the heartbreak of his loss.

God bless his little soul and be with you during this sad time.

Love from us...

[catmandu]

We,too were sorry,to hear about Tucker,and we were happy,taht you got,to hear so many Cats,yesterday.