Cincy (our 5 month old puppy) used to really gulp down her food. I added just a little water to wet it down so she couldn't take as much at once. The vet also suggested spreading it on on a cookie sheet so each peice was further apart and she couldn't get as much at once.

As far as being afarid of the bowl, maybe try taking a few pieces of kibble in your hand, letting your dog eat out of your hand and show him where the food is coming from?

Both our dogs like to lick A LOT so we put the cue words "give kisses" to it. Now, most of the time if you tell them "No Kisses" they will stop licking. Sometimes it takes an "off" command or a gentle push if they are really intent on showing their love