Jen just PM'd me about this thread - I've been off lately. I am so glad you are going to tough it out. Jen had emailed me as she knew Grasshopper had gone over the rainbow bridge this June. Although I am just down here in San Diego, and definitely ready emotionally to move on, logisticaly the timing is bad. Being in the middle of a move soon it would be difficult to try and adopt or foster the kitties now.
You will be much in my thoughts and prayers. I love families like yours who understand the value of each member of the family (no matter which terran species you may be) and really try to work things out.
My best to you and your family - all of you!!