Hi karen, you babe you!

It really isn't so much if a single dog is allowed on the bed that makes him consider his position - it's under what circumstances.
If the dog just jumps onto the bed whenever he feels like it and sees it as a his right to do so that's not so good. If, on the otherhand, you use the fact that you don't mind him being there and it has become a bit of a routine to give his mind some excersise that's VERY good. Just before he jumps onto the bed, you could get his attention, ask for a sit and then tell him he can go on the bed as his reward. Nobody has given up anything that they enjoy, the dog will very quickly learn to sit without any prompt (or just with another one of those fantastic looks) and some very subtle signals are sent.
Once the dog has the hang of this try it with a down before the dog is allowed up on the bed, then with a sit and a speak (bark)....the possibilities are limited only to your imagination! By Christmas you could have Cody cooking breakfast for you every morning, warming up the car and making the bed! This is the "enrichment" you hear zoo keepers and behaviourist talking about all the time.

The looking in the eye is all dependant on the kind of eye contact you start with....try this one - when Cody is relaxed but not asleep start to give him very quick glances four to five seconds apart with soft eyes. Let me know what he does about it but I will say that some dogs, Paddy included, will ignore it or go to sleep - I will tell you why next time. Watch closely to his reaction.