[QUOTE]Originally posted by lynnestankard
[B]You know Thelma no one is going to sort this mess out apart from your girlfriend and her boyfriend! I've read this thread from beginning to end - twice! Everyone's giving the right input - but at the end of the day those two people have to sort out BIG differences.

Thelma I am not having a good feeling about the future of their relationship. We all know that there must be compromise when two people are sharing the same living quarters. If the boyfriend is making it known in advance that he doesn't like cats that would have been a giant red flag for me that perhaps he is not the one for me! My son's ex-wife brought a dog into the marriage that she had for 3-4 years and never properly housetrained. My son was constantly stepping into "mistakes" in the middle of the night and it caused many arguments. Although that is not the reason they eventually divorced I am sure those arguments were the springboard for some of the other issues. I think your friend probably has some unhappy days ahead. You are sweet to try and help her out but unfortunately she will make her own decisions and then have to live with them.