You know Thelma no one is going to sort this mess out apart from your girlfriend and her boyfriend! I've read this thread from beginning to end - twice! Everyone's giving the right input - but at the end of the day those two people have to sort out BIG differences.
Sometimes it's just a case of Dog person and Cat person clashing and there has to be give and take - strikes me he's doing all the taking and not even listening to your friend - let alone doing any giving.
A bit like Yorkster, when my daughter Diane met her hubby to be Jason - he was a dog person and she a cat person. But neither brought a pet into the relationship - mainly 'cos Diane was moving to America to marry Jason. After some months in a pet free zone Diane was getting very stressed and NEEDED a cat to cuddle and as they lived in a small apartment - with no room for a dog - a cat it was!! Just to say Jason is now the BIGGEST cat lover in the world and funnily enough - Tabitha (THE cat) adores her Daddy - they now have a house with much more space and they aren't even discussing getting a dog!
So you see every case is sooooo different and to hark back to the beginning the only two who can sort this out - are the two people concerned.
I think they have to roll up the rugs and talk like adults.


Lynne