First of all, your cat is absolutely fabulous.....beautiful!

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Cats are funny creatures sometimes, and they all have their own little personalities. For instance, my kitty Liza was not too affectionate- she did not want to be picked up or petted too much. She was sweet in her own way though.

Now, my other kitty, Kedi, is just a big cuddley boy- wants attention all the time, sleeps on my pillow, follows me around a lot, and kisses my ears.

I am just trying to say that all kitties have their own personalities, and therefore are all different.
It is also true, like what Casper & Kitty said, it takes time and patience.
I have to keep reminding my husband this, because he is like you: had never thought he would like cats, but has fallen in love with them, and therefore he can't leave them alone..........he is obsessed I tell him! For a long time he was trying too hard I think.

This works pretty well:
ignore them- they hate that!
Or.........get some paperwork out and start working on something, then when you least expect it, here she will come. Cats LOVE to lay all over your paperwork and bat your pens/pencils around.