I agree on the patience comment! I always want to touch and pet and pick up Ritz more than she wants to be....although after two years, she agrees to it more

Someone posted on another subject a quote that was appropriate....something to the affect, if you let a cat into your life, let it come to you on it's own terms, it will be a great companion.

I also agree that playing "at their level" is useful...we sit on pillows a lot and spend a lot of time on the floor, I know it sounds silly, but I think it has helped her bond with us.

I try to work in daily "play time" with Ritz...the little fake fur mices seem to be a favorite (she even "fetches" and brings them back now)

Also, if she is pregnant, she may be a little less sociable - instinct makes them work toward finding a suitable nesting spot, one that is commonly "away" from traffic...others may have more advice on this - my experience with expecting mommycats is somewhat dated - we had Ritz altered like Kitty so she can't have kittens.

Your kitty is very lovely - I think take things slow, let her come to know you - a cat is a very discriminating creature, but once you gain her trust, she will be yours forever!