You'll be in my prayers!
Just want to share my experience, similar to yours... About 11 years ago my cat needed surgery for an impacted bowel (they removed the last foot of it), or he had to be put to sleep. I was recently divorced and had two kids, my mother died 6 weeks earlier, I had just been laid off from my job, and had lost my own health insurance. A very dear friend offered to cover the surgery cost, and my vet arranged for students to do the surgery (since I could be home to do his after-care) to save alot of money. But they told me he'd need litterboxes all over the house and would be on medication and a special diet for the rest of his life. He is now 15 years old, has been off meds for quite a while, eats regular food, and almost never misses his one litterbox - he's a miracle! God knows how much we need the love of our furry friends, and I'll be praying you'll get your miracle, too! Hang in there!