I think you should just tell her you do not think she is good with kids. If she got scared by a 7 year old and a 9 year old, then I really do not think she would do well with a 5 year old and a 10 month old. Unless they are really behaved children.

I don't think so though I have a daughter that is almost 5 and a 11 month old. My older daughter does fine with the cats but my 11 month old is not as easy on them. She will pull on them and chase them. I do watch her and tell her not to do it but she just does not really understand yet. I tell her to be easy but she will pull on their fur.

BTW: I thought you were keeping Evie? Did I miss something?