I don't get along with my mom too well. I talk to her every couple weeks for a few minutes and I see her every month or two, she lives less than 10 miles from my house. There was a lot of abuse in my house growing up, mostly from her and I just don't care to see her too often. I am very bitter toward my mother. I have been to consoling with my paster and it helped some. One thing my paster made me realize is that this is MY problem, not my moms. My mom is the source of the problem, but it is my problem. I can't change my mom or the things that happened, but I can forgive her. I need to forgive her to move on, but it's hard. He it could take months or years. I am talking through my memories with my husband and that helps. It seems like it would make things worse, but it helps a lot. I don't think I can just forgive her all at once for all the separate things. When I talk about it, I can sometimes forgive her for that one thing I am talking about, sometimes I can't.

I hope I helped a little.