OH JENN - please don't feel like you're betraying Duncan - you're actually doing this for the love of your sweet boy. Duncan obviously loves you very much and because you love him, you want him with you for a very long time. He and you would benefit loads from a little professional training and granted it probably will be quite expensive, but pay off two fold in the long run You'll learn a lot about Duncan and he'll learn a lot about you - it will be fun, I just know it