aaww what cute pics
I am sorry you have had such a hard time thru this. It is never easy when to people have such passion for opposite things. (I think that is what I want to say....) That's too bad that you're in laws don't support you.
My sister's dog is the friendliest dog albeit not the brightest bulb in the box, but he is terrified of my dad. My dad has never done anything to him - is a big dog lover - my dog (both that I have had/have) can't get enough of Grandpa. We think that maybe he was abused by someone before my sister got him (from the H.S) that looked like or sounded like my dad. He doesn't growl or anything tho - he just stays away from him. The only time he has ever come up to him was when Scooby had to pee very very very badly - which was impressive b/c he is over 5 years old and still pees in the house. The only other person my sister has found that he doesn't care for is a young black neighbor boy. They don't know why but when he is around Scooby growls and his hackles get all raised.

Goodluck to you and hubby and Buddy. ( Sierra doesn't sound like she needs luck )