It has nothing to do with not wanting to be there! It has everything to do with just her personality to be an escape artist. I've had cats like that and you learn to put them behind a closed door before exiting the house or clanging pots and pans, or using a water squirt gun or many other things. Please don't leave her out there! Call her home and place her in a no-kill shelter if she is too much for your family to manage!