MY SIL had at least 5 showers. She didn't have the same people at any of them. Well, my mom went to two only because there was no stopping her I was told point-blank that I was only invited to ONE of those showers, and well, I was insulted at first but then I realised she was right... I didn't have to worry about the gifts and how I'd get there and taking the time, etc. Go have your three parties and have fun!