Mine have done that middle of the night flapping thing on occasion and it scares me to death! Thank heavens, it doesn't happen often.

Our Milly never bit me, but to this day, she doesn't like me to take her out of the cage. She likes to come out on her own, then she will "step up". I have worked with Bennie on stepping up, but I can't get him out of the cage either. Roger is the only one who will willingly jump out on my hand. He literally leaps!!!! When we got Milly, they had a stick (a short plastic pole) that they used to get her out of the cage. She would step up on that, then you could "retrieve" her out of the cage. Maybe you can just either allow Fancy to climb out on her own by putting something tempting up on top like a leaf of lettuce or something like that, and just sit back and quietly watch, then gradually start talking to her softly, then approach her, etc. It may take a while for her to get comfortable, but she will, eventually. I have just sort of learned to let Milly do what she wants to, the way she wants to, but I do hold her on my shoulder, quite often. She is the best behaved of all my 3 when she is on my shoulder!

Good luck!