I can't pretend to know what you are going through, Laura. I have never lost two pets so close together. I do know the pain of losing pets that are like family. Last year I lost my Shih Tzu, Angie in June and my grandma in August. It was the worst year ever. I had been dreading those two deaths for years and they happened 3 months apart. I'm here for you if you need to talk or need anything. It probably won't make it any easier, but this is the kind of things we can expect from life when we love our animals so much.
Someone asked me once when I was upset about Angie dying, "Why do you put yourself through this. Don't get anymore and you won't have to deal with the pain." That in it self made me feel better. I know that all the happy times you and I had with our pets makes all the pain well worth it.