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Turkish Vans are beautiful cats!

All cats have different personalities (like humans!): some are friendlier, some are easy-going, and some aren't. I think if you get her spayed, that will help her mellow out too. You also might think about getting another kitty, so that she will have companionship when you are gone. I got a second cat and it helped a lot- my other kitty was lonely sometimes before.

When she "massages" your husbands belly, this is normal (and a good sign that she is happy). All happy, content cats do this. Like everyone else said, it goes back to when they were kittens with their mommys. It is actually a big compliment to you!

If you decide to breed her, is she a purebred? Are you going to breed her with another purebred? The reason I ask is that sometimes kittens are difficult to find good homes for unless they are. If she is a purebred, it might be fun to breed her once. Kittens are so much fun to watch and play with! You could also keep one of her kittens for her (and you too!)
If you don't breed her, then for sure you should get her spayed: she will be a happier kitty if you do, plus, there won't be unwanted kitties to have to find homes for.

Good Luck, and let us all know how it goes!