When I had a male and female cat together, they never did get cuddely with each other. My boy kitty wanted to, but she wanted no part of it. However, they did have a pretty good friendship otherwise.
I have 2 boys now and they are pratically joined at the hip (except when the youngin' irratates his older brother, which is a few times a day, then there is a bit of hissing and swatting) Then the next thing you know, they are grooming each other!