Noah's Mommy, I think gender does play in this. In my life of cats, I have found the toms to be more overtly AFFECTIONATE but also found the females to be a bit more aloof. Having said that, I've had better luck with females as in-house only, even though I had the toms altered, still had the roaming/spraying issues.

I do think the tuxedo gals have a unique personality too. Tonight she has been too funny, chasing the fake mousie under the pantry door, meowing to have me retrieve it...lots of play time. She also follows me around the house after I get home, is always somewhere in the room with me even if she isn't lovey dovey...

Ritz is still the "cat o my heart"...snuggles or not