lizzielou742, I can understand very well that you're upset!! No need to feel bad about it.

I've experienced something similar with my step-father and the way he's treating Lily. He finds it funny to get her startled and grab her, even in her neck.

Like jazzcat, I think I would have said something too. I did when my step father acted like that, and the frustrating thing is that he didn't accept my wish to treat my cat with more respect. Made me so upset that I've almost asked him to go, and I don't like to invite him anymore.

Kirsten