Trust me on this one. These kids will realize on their own, all about their mother and what a kvetch (I'm being nice here) she is. I'm glad I listened to my family's advice about biting my tongue, as hard as it was.

One thing that REALLY got to me was my ex's wife's insistence on my kid calling HER Mommy and me Mommy Donna. But all along I knew that I was her mother, always have been, always will be. And everytime Karen and I were alone, I reminded her of it. THAT really pissed her off.

I also understand how frustrated you are at not having a say in court. Especially since your money and time go to those kids.

My life was made miserable because I WANTED to spend alot of time with Amy (they lived 50 miles away from me) and every time I requested an extra couple of hours here or there, the answer was always no. And it was always for spite.

Hang in there, okay? It's a very difficult situation being in the middle. But in the end, you'll be the winner and the one they call when they need someone.