$14 a month toward arrears should be in addition to what the alloted monthly (piddly amount that it is) child support is. Is all she pays is a TOTAL of $14? Sorry, I'm just confused. My ex was the same way and I never did get the "arrears" but I do wish you luck. At least the kids seem to have a stable loving family and will grow to have more respect for their fellow human beings than their biological breeder does (I refuse to refer to her as a mother).