Laurie, it isn't that you are weak, it is that it's very difficult sometimes to be strong. We want to do the "right" thing, and be a good person and help others.

But everyone is right about establishing boundaries.

It took me a long time to learn that, to like myself enough to put them in place and keep them there.

I would imagine that everyone on Pet Talk in some way or other, has been in your shoes. That's why we can all chime in with our advice.

I hope everything works out and don't forget - YOU are a good person and come first.