Ok I am back from ordering the flowers and a book. I had the poor girl searching all over their shelves and then reading me the back of books till I was happy with one. *L*

This whole thing was such a surprise. I know it caught everyone off guard. My father had gone to a lawyer the day before he went in for the stress eko test to have a living will made out. He had a regular will but decided to change it all and have a living one made out because this way it bypasses probate and has a contingency in case he isn't able to make ANY decision he has already spelled them out. I am so happy he is doing this. He does have some money and property and life insurances and this way all is spelled out as to what he wants done with it all.

I don't really know his side of the family at all. While I was growing up in Encinitas and they were in Santee my father never wanted anything to do with them. The few times we did see them I couldn't stand my cousins. I mean..please....Colleen, Doreen and Maureen. But once my parents divorced and I had moved to this end of the country he didn't have anyone left. His one friend got remarried and was traveling around the county. So he turned to his sister and started getting closer to them. So I don't want to cause any friction because that is who he has out there. He will never leave CA and I never want to move there again. But I also don't wish to have that side of my family in my life. So I tread this fine line to keep things so they are the best for my father. Because that is what is most important. But I will next time make sure that I am on the contact list.

The pathetic thing is I don't even know the name of his doctor. I have only talked to his nurses. There hasn't seemed to be any real decisions to make so I have made any waves. But once he is out of the hospital I think I will talk to him and tell him that he really needs to have a card in his wallet with my name and number in it. That as his daughter and his main next of kin I want to be better informed as to what is going on.

But I just had some sunflowers with roses and orchids and a book sent to his room. I think I will go make dinner now and relax. It has been a stressful weekend.

Denyce