you need to tell ruth "no". period. I know you can because you've done it with me in the past. no room at the inn means NO ROOM AT THE INN! She has 2 bathrooms and plenty of room to foster. You want me to talk to her? cuz I will! and I will say that I have put nasty toms in my small bathroom and been subjected to scratches and she can do the same! Holy moley! I don't get some people- she has space gallore! we should teach her how to use it productively! (and she has money)