Instead of trying to hold him so much, why don't you create a "playground" for him. I have read on a hamster site that many folks have set up a big Rubbermaid plastic bin with shavings and toys and given their hammies some extra exercise and different surroundings there for a little while each day. Of course, you would be right there, supervising. Why don't you check out this community? Maybe you can get some better ideas there. Here's the link: http://communities.msn.com/Hamstersgalore .

One thing you might have to realize is that it will take some time for Aspen to get accustomed to being held. That doesn't mean that you can't enjoy him in other ways. Try handfeeding him some neat treats, like yogurt drops, or a small piece of lettuce or carrot. You just need to take your time, and introduce him slowly. Remember that this is all new to him too, and he can probably sense your fear of being bitten, which frightens him.

I feel a little embarassed by responding when I am not an expert either. But maybe the link to that community will help you. Good luck!