My dear, dear Aly, I think you are right. This situation has weighed on my mind because I know how hard you have been trying to find the solution. I wish I could take the little goofball myself, I have learned to love him through you, but husband has never shown any signs of allowing me any more animals. You have done everything humanly possible, but Harley's past and his genes have made him obsessed with the cat. Somehow he has tranferred any threat to what he feel is his happy home to poor, poor Shiloh, who doesn't deserve any of it. Maybe he is jealous of the fact that Shiloh sleeps with you. Who knows. I for one would feel you were doing the best for each of your animals by rehoming Harley. You yourself have specified the reasons and I think you are right on target. I know how much you will grieve this. The expression is hackneyed but it says it all....I feel your pain.