I am hanging around in General too much so am late getting in here! Omegosh OF COURSE your daughter deserves a baby shower!!! I hope she has several!! One thing though - and you said it too - it would be nice if you could just go, relax and enjoy it - that is why I hope one of her friends decides to do the planning - maybe with your advice?? Maybe they are also wondering what and how to do things?? The *grandma* really should be able to just sit and enjoy!!! But if you WANT to do it, GO FOR IT I bet she will end up with more than one shower anyway. Wait and see!!