Congratulations Grandma!!!

I have to chime in with everyone else, if you want her to have a shower, throw her a shower! So few of my friends have had babies that I'm really not up on the proper protocal, but being married or not makes no difference. Like Catmandu says, they are young and need everything to help them get started with the baby.

The thing that upset me long ago was with a friend's first baby, everyone was all excited and she had a shower. When the second baby came along it was like no one cared and there was no shower for that baby. He deserved one too, didn't he? Of course like I say, I have no idea of what's "proper" and what's not when it comes to babies.

The only thing I would do is talk to some of her friends. They might be unsure about what's right and what's not also, and they might welcome a little direction from someone older and "in the know."