Why make the choice to not have children?

[Denyce]

Oh you funny!

Denyce

[sirrahbed]

Originally posted by Cataholic
"oh, just wait til delivery and they have a mirror larger than a big screened tv...so you (meaning me) can watch the birth.."...I was like, "gross! why would I want to see that?" He he he...who knows, maybe I will change when the time comes, but, it seems kind of gross to me

Just reviewing and found this! Now remember I am an RN, have worked L&D, yes and Lit teacher too - went through degree collecting stage - "finding myself" (now home kitty mom) so anything medical fascinates me but personally I really liked having the mirrors! I also like watching births on Health TV or whatever you call it. For one thing, it takes your mind off some of the action (if you are the laboring mom) and the whole thing is utterly fascinating! I mean, don't you gasp in wonder at watching puppies and kitties being born? I have only seen it on Animal Planet but it is great! Now as far as sharing these photos etc at the office - Uh-Uh. Johanna - when your time comes - I hope you at least give the mirrors a try - they do help you to focus on the birth and OFF the contractions, etc and really participate in the delivery! (think about it ) It's not gross, no way. All NORMAL & NATURAL

[trayi52]

Oh, Debbie I agree! I got to watch my youngest be born, I loved It. I even got to watch my youngest granddaughter be born! Guess what she came out looking at me! I swear she did.

I have seen a little bit of everything be born, and helped with the births, from kittens, puppies, calves, colts and I don't remember all, I was born on a farm and there were births of all kinds going on.

But of course it is your decision, they put me to sleep with my first two births, or something that makes you forget everything. Wake up and you got a baby. LOL, but Johanna, at least have the mirror there in case you want to open your eyes and get a little glipsey at that beautiful little boy entering the world. You don't have to look.

Willie

[nibblets]

Originally posted by GoldenRetrLuver
I can't really give you much more straight of an answer; I just don't like kids. Period. No offense, but they just don't 'appeal' to me. Even when I was a *wee* little girl, I had no interest in babies, just animals; according to my parents.

I respect the honesty of that answer! Not everyone is cut out for or obligated to have kids. There are far too many kids out there these days with parents who should have refrained from having them.

I work with a couple of different people who have made the choice to have animals rather than children...it works great for them. They love their animals as much as anyone else I know loves their kids.
Knowing both of these women, I think they both made the right choices. I really can't see either of them with children. They are great women...they just don't feel that need to raise a child.

[trayi52]

I agree with you nibblets, just because you chose not to have children, it sure doesn't mean your a lesser person. Like you, I know some wonderful people that chose not to have children. You could not ask for better people than they are!

Willie

[GoldenRetrLuver]

Originally posted by nibblets
I respect the honesty of that answer!

Thank You!
Now, if only some of my friends/family members could understand that. "You're still young...I'm almost positive you'll change your mind." NO, I won't! I'll stick with Dogs- please!

[RICHARD]

lol,

This ticked me off..

I listen to dr. Laura every so often......it's the best comedy show on the radio....for everyone else...She is a judgemental radio wanna be doctor..her degree is in biology-she dispenses advice on personal problems

Anywho,

a woman called about and 18 month old child who was being baby-sat (?) by her brother....the kid broke a 1200 dollar vase.

The brother wants his sister to pay for the vase. While describing the brother the woman said he was 40, single, had never married and had no children..

The 'good' doctor made a comment like, "oh he's really strange"-

I understand why people would want not to have children- I, for a long time wanted children. But that soon burned out of me, for personal reasons.

To me it's like Coke or Pepsi, either or, I like Coke, I like Pepsi.....it's a personal taste.

It does not make me any less of a person if I do not have kids, It does not make me any more of a person if I did.

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When I worked next to the Labor and Delivery rooms
I heard the screaming, yelling and cursing that went on.....

My best friend went thru labor for 20 some hours before a C-section....


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I have enough problems taking care of myself.

[cali]

I adore kids and I am very good with them, actually my friend on the phon just finnished syaing I should be a child counclier because I am really good at making kids feel better about themselves etc. and even over the winter a little girl did not want to give her sister a chance with the sled, I went over had a little friendly, not stern or angry or demading at all, just told her politly to give her sister a chance with the sled, and she said ok, and happily gave the sled to her sister lol now even though I am great with kids I really dont want one myself. now I would love to work with kids when I am older, but I would never want one myself.

[Sirrahsim]

In case anyone was wondering, I'm still here, just quietly watching all of the drama. I think there is a lot of good information in the first half or so of this thread and it would be a shame to delete it, perhaps I can get Karen to lock it instead? There have been many people who really opened up on this thread, some feelings were hurt, and yes many barbs were thrown on this thread as well as by PM. It is sad that threads which bring together people of different backgrounds and opinions often digress into arguing*sigh* but I suppose that's just how it is and always will be. Whatever you believe in, cling to that and be strong. No one should be able to change your opinion but yourself

[Karen]

Closing this thread as requested by its originator.