Well this thread is going to let me maybe surprize a few with my story. I didn't want any kids and I told hubby about it when we were dating. He said the same things as most of you. But I was very sure as I had inherited my fathers german timper. They called me corky at school cuz I would go off like a cork . Didn't take much for me to get pi$$ of. All went as planned (my plan) till 3 years of marrage I found the 2% of failerue on the pill . My daughter was born, 22 months later my son arrived another pill failure. Not that I failed they did. I was so scared I wouldn't be alone for months with my daughter (my mom and her are very bonded as a result cuz she was there to help me so much) I can't say I didn't lose it but never to what I thought I would(I thought I would be a physical abuser) I never did hit them . I did find I like kids at the age of 2 (i know most people don't like them then ) then each year after I enjoyed them more even as teens (crazy i know) . If I was to do it over I don't know if I would change it or not(glad i don't have to make that descion. ) I enjoy spoiling the neices and nephews ,will grandchildren if any ever appear but that is the kids choices.
I do try to make them very aware of the chances of family inherited diabetes . Had I known the history that would energe from the 2 families I would have been more likly to not have had them. 5 of the 6 grandpaernts are 2 on insulin, I have it . one or both of mine by 30 will have the disease. I tried to ward it off by really drilling good nutriation . After son was born hubby went for the neutering. It was a volentary thing as a gift to me since I went through the births.
Mydaughters birth was hard 18 hours but son was 4 and like having a bad case of gas no pain. (that came later as he grew up.)
I think it is a persons choice and no one should pressure any one in to it.
parenting is no picnic and like pet ownership its a life time commitment. Like willie says you still worry and pray for them constantly.

Jen I would like to know how at 20 you were able to have the problem fixed? Here in less you have a medical problem they will not do it. I would have if that were the case. Are our countries that much different?