I'd like to add that I would never discourage anybody from having children. I am happy when someone says they are expecting or trying to get pregnant. I just know without a doubt that it is not for me. I had a dream the other night... really it was a nightmare... I dreamt that I was pregnant. It was so real. So heartstopping. All I thought was "well mom will be happy. I'm not." Heck, if it can seep through to your dreams, its gotta be a pretty strong emotion!

One thing that I cannot stand is when people constantly ask me when my husband and I will be having kids together. We do... three kids from hid first marriage. No, they say, a new baby from YOU. Um... that's not happening. In 5 years, the youngest will be heading to college, why would we start all over again? Not only that, but he's "fixed" and isn't interested in becoming "unfixed" I knew this from date one. If I had a problem with it, then I would have not gone on dates #2, 3, 4.....

As for people making comments on either side of the debate, its rude. People should not make someone else feel guilty over their personal choices. People should not feel compeled to explain their reasons to strangers! My SIL was 40 when she had my niece... do you know the rude comments she had to endure? So what, she will be an old mom. She has more energy than I do! The thing about choices is that they are CHOICES. Only something you can make and keep.