At this time I would say that I am undecided about having children. If I do decide to have kids I know that I will adopt some if not all of them. I also know that if I do have kids it will be something I carefully plan.

Like Sara and others I believe parenting to be the most difficult job around. The decision to have children is huge and affects your life tremendously. I can’t make a decision like that now when my future is so unknown. I can see myself in a good place to have children ten or more years from now, but I can also see myself never having children of my own. Perhaps if I was extremely passionate about it then I would vow to make it work, whatever the future may hold, but it seems I am not extremely passionate one way or another.

As a child and teenager I always spent a lot of time around kids, babysitting and just gravitating towards them in general. I enjoy being around kids and for the most part they enjoy my company too. I used to play with baby dolls, play house, etc. But I feel a lot of that just has to do with “societal norms” being the only way of life children are aware of. I think now that I realize this truly is a choice and one to be taken very seriously, I’m scared and less sure of myself.

But my choice, one way or the other, does not take away from the fact that I love children and think they are great fun to be around. If I didn’t, I wouldn’t continue to work in childcare!