I'm at the opposite end of the spectrum from many of the responses here. I ALWAYS wanted to have kids, and lots of them! My first husband was not that way. When we finally did agree to have a baby, after 6 years of marriage, and I was 8 months pregnant with Helen, I remember him saying to me that if it had been totally up to him, he would have chosen to have no children. I'm sure he doesn't remember saying that, and he would regret having ever said it if he did remember it. I NEVER forgot those words coming out of his mouth, though, as I sat there, looking like a whale, so excited about the new baby. Maybe that was the beginning of the end for us. Anyway, we have a lovely 13 year old now, and she is the apple of both of our eyes. He has turned out to be a terrific father to her, even though we are no longer married. The only thing I regret is that I was never able to have more, and now I'm too old! But I got two more when I remarried last year, just "grown" ones instead of infants.

I love children, and they are our future. But I applaud those of you who are wise enough to know that a child is not what you want or need, and are taking the precautions to make sure you don't have one.