I saw an article recently (I'll try and find the link) which thought there was a link between how friendly a Tom cat is and how friendly his offspring is.
That's an interesting theory, I've heard about that, too (not long ago that I read an article in one of my mags).

Would there be a possibility to keep her? I figure you don't want to do that because of Tinky and Jupiter?

I'm so sorry that this is so hard for you! Hopefully she'll find a good place soon. She's adorable!

Kirsten