Hi Mommacat --

I had a similar situation with my alpha male cat when I brought 2 new cats into the house, the second one about 4 weeks after the first one. They were both rescue cats, one having lived outside for a while and had 4 babies that she finally showed to me. Anyway, I found homes for the babies and kept the mom and the alpha male cat didn't like that at all. It took MONTHS for them to learn to tolerate each other. When I brought the next cat into the house (who was about 5 weeks old at the time), about 4 weeks after the mom, my alpha male cat loved her. To see them together you would have thought my alpha male was its mother. Go figure.

Now, about 10 months later, the mom cat has made it clear that yes, she will stay in the same room with the alpha male cat but she clearly thinks he's a total drip. He will chase her sometimes and she will run - to a point. I have found the mom cat standing over the alpha male, just reading him the riot act a few times, very loudly and very angrily. And he lays on the floor, avoids looking at her, and just takes it. So I feel confident that if he really gets on her nerves, she'll let him know that she's not happy. Personally, I think he now just wants to play with her and she's letting him know that he is not forgiven for the way he treated her when she first started to live there.

Hang in there, MommaCat. Letting them work it out is 75% of what it takes - the other 25% is lots of love and attention from you..