Leroy went through this same thing. I think in time they come back to you. They just have to prove their independance for awhile! Leroy is the only one I can use as an example and doesn't that just bite?! Out of all my cats I have only one lap baby!! Sammy has always been a daddy's boy and all the others were feral so they prefer lovins on the ground or just being held briefly.
That just gave me a reality check! The nawtee kitty that drives me crazy is my only lap baby!! *SIGH* that must be why I adore the maniac!!