Hi Paul, and welcome to Pet Talk Bless your heart for caring so for little Kellie I've never cared for a deaf kitty, but have friends who have had deaf and blind dogs. All lived incredibly rich and full lives! I wish I had more on hands advice, but this Deaf kitty care article had a lot of great info. My vet's always said that unless you tend to breed your dog or kitty, they should be spayed/neutered by 1 year for a host of health/safety concerns. She may be a bit less affectionate/distant due to her not being spayed. Is she an indoor or outdoor kitty? Perhaps she's just feeling a bit lost in the crowd right now? Does she get a lot of one on one attention? I know that's not easy to do with my crew of 5! I'm off now to check out your family! Please check back with us and update us on Kellie! Again, welcome to Pet Talk, Paul and Kellie!