Spencer the post is under Cat Breeds.....July 11th. You have to go back a little in the archives. In fact I was just reading the post and you had responded with some of your thoughts. The post from that day goes into more detail of the problems she is having with him. This summer I went to her house when she was on vacation to feed him and take care of his litter box. Since she was not in the house, he mostly hid behind the rocker. I tried to play with him each time I went over, and after a while he did eventually come out and sort of play. He seems fearful of strangers and takes on an aggressive attitude when around them because I guess he is worried and nervous. He is more relaxed when she is on the premises, although he still won't play much with anyone other than her and if I try to pick him up he freaks. She can pick him up and hug him but he won't stay on her lap for long at all. It's sad because she went out of her way to find a cat with a reputation for being a lap cat. He is just not a cuddler.