Susan48, it could be that you are mixing up your grief, but losing a pet is a very painful experience. Please don't think that your loss is not proportionate to your pain, therefore you must be transferring your sense of loss from other events. In other words, I hope you aren't thinking that losing little Pearlie was not a bad enough thing to be feeling so bad. It may be unfortunate that there are other horrible things happening at the same time, perhaps adding a synergistic quality to your sadness, but that does not mean that Pearlie was not "important" enough to grieve for, maybe for quite some time.

Of course, if you feel overwhelmed, there's nothing wrong with seeking some professional help, either. Sometimes, no matter how valid our feelings are, we still need help sorting things all out.

Good luck to you, and I'm very sad for your loss.