Originally posted by luckies4me
Last year I left Dan. I took EVERYTHING! I left to California for the sake of MY child. You don't know what the mother went through. The father could have been abusive or just an overall ass so she thought the best thing for the child was to remove herself and the child from the father.
Of course we don't know. That is why, in my original post, I said, "Of course, we don't know all the details, so it's impossible to pass any kind of judgement on anyone."

I was not meaning the mother in particular should have acted like an adult, and the father was blameless. Could be. Or could be the exact opposite - the mother was a victim and the father an abuser. We don't know. That's why I said we can't pass judgement on anyone.

However ... I do know this ... at least one and possibly both of those parents DID act like an immature, nasty person. We don't know if it was the mom or the dad or both ... but if both of them would have been acting like reasonable, mature, responsible adults, none of this would have happened in the first place.

And, as always, it is the child that pays the price.