Originally posted by Dog1,Cats2
With Tommy, I'd start with holding the spoon or something that she's shown to be afraid of unthreateningly in your hand. Have her come to you and receive a treat. Then raise the spoon a little bit, give her another treat. Each time, raise it a little higher, and reward her for staying near you and receiving a treat. Go real slow with it and use lots of treats.

Good luck!
Just what I was going to suggest. You need to teach him to associate these items with good things - treats, pets, loving etc. Use really great treats - pieces of hot dog, chicken, etc. Also if someone else is doing it - laugh and toss a treat. He will get past it - it will just take some time.