Oh do I know how you feel, my mother passed away my freshmen year of college. She was my best friend, we did everything toghter.

Anyway my Father held on to most of her things for years. Till the day of my Brothers wedding, I'll never forget turning around to see my father giving my brothers new wife, my mother's diamonds. I just couln't belive it, I had no idea what say or do. I was so angry and hurt. Later of course I told my father that the least he could have done was warn me, he had no idea how hard it was for me to stand there and have Lynn show me my mother's diamonds.

Then a few years later I find out that Lynn (brothers wife) was giving my mother's buz. It was left to me after I came of a certain age, in the mean time my Aunt ran it. They had decided that sence Lynn had no job and was bored being a housewife/mother that this would be perfect for her...So off they flew to my aunts and told her I had no problems with this. NO one asked me!!!

Now as of this day the buzz is in the hands of Lynn's best friend and Lynn has a small part in it.....she owns that name!!! I do have my mothers wedding ring back, I raised h@#l for that. She has the others.

I hold a lot of anger to this day about some of this and most likely always will. It's been hard getting close to Lynn because of this.
I realize that my brother should also have some of mothers things and has the right to give them to his wife if he wants but some how I feel that they forgot that I too lost my mother and before anything was decided or giving away I should have at least been informed. Just because I never asked for items they assumed I didn't care or want them and the truth is I didn't want to take them away from my father.

I know how it hurts when the only things you have of a loved one are taken away from you without any thoughts to how you feel. I wanted so bad to take my brother to court over the buzz at first, it was legal mine, but I couldn't fight with a family member over anything like this. God forbid I lose him too, how would I live with myself.

The best I could do was explain how I felt as nicely as I could and then go on with what ever they decided because in the long run my brother still means more to me then any item of my mothers. I carry her in my heart everyday.