I don't want to be a pain but didn't you just have a pot about trying to get your dead freinds 2 year old son? It seens that would change the dynamic of your house hold. Have you thought with you head not your heart? I am VERY guilty of that Thats why I have rescued about 20 pets and then found homes after I really saw that it was not a good match. I lost part of my soul each time.
I know how all of us want to save ever life we come in contacct with but sadly the truth is we can't. Each of us must make our own choices as we are the only ones who KNOW who we are and how we live. I also know that all of us on this board love each other and care thats why we are here. But we are indivauals and can get misunderstood, in our effort to save the lives.
Please hug and make up we all just have strong feelings and want to help.
Perhaps you could get uma out them give Kayann the address and she could try the rescuses, sometimes a different person can acheive a different result.