Oh Kelly - I've just read through the whole thread and I feel as if I've been through a wringer. What you've been through is just too stressing for words.
I'm pleased you and David have made up, being angry isn't going to help the situation one bit. Men seem to lash out verbally very quickly without being aware of the hurt they do us.
I'm sure the answer is getting Emma/Samson and Phobeb re-homed.
As I was reading through I kept thinking of Gabe and his lovely, happy move to Graemer and Miley - maybe, just maybe your two babies weren't meant to stay with you for always.
I know it's been a hard time for you, the furbabies and David - so {{{Hugs}}} and nose kissies are flying over the miles to you all.xxxx

Lynne