Kelly, I'm all worn out just from reading this thread, so I can only imagine how drained you are. Hugs to you, David and the kitties.

From what I have read, re-homing Samson and Phoebe sounds like the most sensible option. Phoebe is using her bladder and bowel to lash out in her own way because she isn't happy, and your home situation is being affected. I wish it wasn't like this, but it is, so I'll send you as many positive thoughts as I have and hope they help the little ones when it's time for them to be re-homed.

I know what it's like with your husband, am going through something similar at times when the pups are being right devils. I feel sometimes that maybe I pressured Shane into getting dogs, or we took the step too early, or 100 other guilty thoughts, but I have learned to tell him to pull his head in, shut up and go for a walk until he cools off. Animals behave in certain ways for a reason, and us getting angry doesn't do a damn thing to help ... send me a PM or e-m if you want to chat, OK?