Yes, how long have you had this *loner* kitty? I think if you haven't had her long, then time and patience is the answer. Continue to show her as much love and attention as you can (as much as she's willing to accept!) and I believe she will warm up to you and the family. It sounds like this poor kitty has had quite a difficult time of it, before being adopted by you (thank you for doing so! ). She probably just wants to take some time to adjust. You might want to spend time with her down in the basement, playing with her, petting her (does she let you?), talking to her. It seems to be where she's most comfortable at the moment, but I think in time she will always want to be where you are. I really hope this sweet kitty will bond with you soon and you can all be one big happy family again! Please keep us updated and let us know how things are going! !!

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~Margaret