Oh, I'm so sorry to hear about this! Poor Ally, and poor, you, Julie! (((HUGS)))

I agree with you, you can't leave them together in the house while you're on holiday, and maybe it would really be the best solution to give Connor to your mom - if she wants to take him. It's sad, but I totally agree with you when you say Ally as cat #1 comes first. I would have done the same with Luna and Lily if it wouldn't have worked.

As for the shipping I would also give a little to help. I don't have much at the moment 'cause I've also lost my job (as you know), but I would like to help.

(((HUGS))))
Kirsten