Here's 2 1/2 cents worth from a novice cat person. It is true, cats like all four on the floor. It has been hard to understand here with the two children, that cats only look like stuffed dollies. They are short to us and sweet and cuddly. To themselves some are dangerous tigers full of will and ferocity. They are CATS and proud of it.

A 14 week old kitten is a formed being. It is hard to change a kitten once its mother has taught it the ways of the world. I always look to see that the mother used the litter box ok and kept herself clean.

My oldest cat is a real grump and bites me hard. Hard with blood and bruises. He comes around and makes nice to get his chin scratched and for petting above the shoulders, when he has enough he bares his fangs and I shoo him off. A nice necessary brushing, he doesn't groom himself, and any medical treatment and I have to pay for a long time.

I played with him by letting him catch and kill my hands when he was little. The little claws and baby teeth feel tickly and good at 2 lbs. At 13 lbs. with a real serious hunter it ain't so much fun.
Bad bad bad way to play with a kitten.

Trimming his claws always seems to quiet some agression. He likes to see me jump and howl when he hurts me. I'm not kidding here. Since we got two peaceful cats he has an outlet for his great and terrible catness.

Your cat is what he is. He has nothing against you. He is living out his cat life as he sees it. All you can change is you. You have to expect him to be himself. Honor his wildcatness, great predator of the forest. Learn to enjoy it. You didn't do anything wrong. Try a little behavior modification if you have the patience. Give a lucious snack on your lap when he peacefully settles there but don't hold or restrain the incredible CAT. Don't tell him that he is short and that the world is full of dogs, cars and mean boys with sticks.

Regards,

Lynn